Fetish

Fetishism is something I have always struggled to come to terms with. Don’t get me wrong, I understand some of them. The ones that involve sex with a person I am fine with. I can see the attraction of say, leather or mini skirts. I just cannot get my head around the inanimate object fetishes.

Fetishes stem from childhood (I would guess, and I would like to clear this up from the outset, I am not a psychologist) The reason men like breasts is because ever since we were born we rely on them for food, and without getting to Freudian about things they have always given us comfort. Some people also suggest, very reasonably, that we like them because they remind us of bums, and therefore, sex. There is an evolutionary purpose.

It makes me wonder about the bizarre, but very common, fetish of feet. The only reason I can come up with is that they are mysterious. Shoes and socks nearly always cover them. What is interesting to me is that the vast majority of people with a foot fetish are male. (97%). I think this is due to women dressing their feet up with pedicures, nail varnish, toe rings and high heels and that we are not supposed to pay attention to them in the way we do about other parts of the female body.

The brain could have another explanation. Apparently the areas that control the nerve endings in the genitals are close to the ones that control the nerve endings in ones foot.

I have to admit here, I love having my feet stroked, not in a sexual way of course but I find it very relaxing. It doesn’t turn me on in the slightest but I can see, that it maybe could turn others on.

The great thing about fetishism today is that it has become mainstream with the invention and growth of the Internet. I honestly do not know how like-minded people got together and lived out their fetish fantasies before. Nowadays you could have the most depraved, weird and unusual fetish in the world and you can guarantee there will be at least a handful of people that share your desires.

A quick search on Google, for research (wink wink) revealed some brilliant things.

Plushophilia is a fetish where you were probably around stuffed animals too much as a kid. It involves getting together and having sex with people dressed as animals (Cast of cats better be careful) while dressed as an animal yourself. This is also probably how people with consciences can get around their bestiality depravations.

Sploshing I could see this one gaining popularity a mile off. It is a pretty new fetish where you cover a woman in gunge or foodstuffs. I think that this is popular in our generation that grew up watching ‘Noels house party’ and ‘get your own back’ because all kids play with themselves (innocently of course) watching TV. It was, and still is, a comfort thing. Just look at all the rude boys nowadays, hands never out of their pants. So people will associate the gungings with the comfort they get from having the hands down the pants… Hey presto, a new fetish.

These fetishes are not hurting anyone and I like the fact that people are not alone in this anymore. Sure, most of us find their turn-ons bizarre but I would bet that in about 30 years this will be mainstream. 30 years ago blowjobs were fetishised and taboo, hookers used to charge more for a blowjob than they did for sex. The reduction in price ’10 for a hand job, 20 for a blowjob and 50 for full sex’ reflects that this is no longer seen as a depraved act.

We should be careful though, who knows what the future holds when it comes to sex. The kids today can look at what we call ‘hardcore’ freely from a very young age. And with desensitization comes a desire for more extreme pleasures.

In the future, if we are not careful, hardcore, depraved, fetish driven smut will be everyday viewing in forms of adverts. And if that is mainstream… what will be hardcore then.